Why are the adoptive parents the enemy here?

Personally I think they think that everyone is unaware of some of the problems involved in adoption. The problem is they attack instead of trying to get their point across in a reasonable manor. And I think they sometimes think that because they are unhappy with their experience (meaning with the system and or their parents) that everyone is. Which is not the case. The thing is they say they support adoption but not the way it is currently run, but yet they seem to slam anyone currently seeking to adopt and those who are not bitter about their adoption. They need to learn that just because others do not share their beliefs they are not wrong. I know I will listen to someone who is reasonable before I will to someone who is nasty and and negative in their responses. I think instead of attacking they should be informative in how to get involved to make the reforms so that it is a better situation for all parties involved. This is just my opinion. Knowledge and facts not hatred is what should be used to try to make the reforms needed.